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Testing Times

TESTING TIMES ✨


It’s easy to seem like you have everything together until your toddler loses it in public.

I find myself getting quickly overwhelmed and bending over backwards trying to reason with an almost 2 year old that is not interested in listening to anything I have to say in the moment.

People stare at us and a part of me cringes at what they ‘must’ be thinking.

Suddenly any judgement I had prior to becoming a mum and all the things I said I would surely never do seem to go out the window because I really never knew what it’s like to be in this situation.

S had that many tantrums last night through the airport, at check in, screaming and throwing herself around because she had to sit on my lap for take off. Tears started to well up in my eyes as I had to hold her down in my lap while the plane got ready to take off. By this point I was feeling defeated, alienated and alone. The flight attendant stopped as she went to sit down for take off and told me it would all be ok and not to stress…That one person who could see I was really struggling made all the difference. All I needed to hear was some words of encouragement.

Next time you see a mum with a tantrum throwing child let her know she’s going to be ok and not to worry.

In reflection I think the main stress comes from worrying what others think, I have to remind myself that their opinion really doesn’t matter to me and I need to provide the space for my daughter to let all that built up emotion out in a safe space both emotionally and physically. The calmer I can be the more loving and safe the space is, which will allow her to let it all out.

I’m grateful for the experience and the challenge it has brought me because I’m learning everyday more about myself and how I can be for my daughter. 💕
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. photo: Apogee Photography (Jose Garcia)
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The Journey

THE JOURNEY ✨


If we all judged and compared less and practised more empathy and compassion I honestly think the world would be a better place.

Everyone is on their own journey and has their own story. Nothing is personal and it took me years to realise this. That guy yelling at you in traffic because you are going too slow, that lady who picked on what you were wearing, the person who said you are this or that. Each of those people have a reason why they are acting the way they are and generally it comes from a place of hurt at some point in their life. Or you may trigger something in them that they are learning to work through or maybe haven’t yet realised they could work through. .
So really that moment of reaction, judgement, comparison that is being put onto us is actually all about them.

If you find yourself reacting, judging, comparing… take a moment to practice some empathy for someone else or maybe even for yourself in that moment because maybe they are bringing up something in you that you haven’t yet found peace with.

We are all here on this earth doing the best we know how with the tools that we have. You never really know what someone has been through to be showing up in a particular way.

And please know that although we can practice empathy it is just as important to set healthy boundaries and standards of how we allow others to treat us, by reminding ourself to not take it personally, make your boundaries clear and remove yourself from the situation if need be. .
At the end of the day everyone just wants to feel love and connection whether that’s through acceptance, acknowledgement, understanding or something else. .
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Pre Baby Weight

PRE BABY WEIGHT ✨


What even is pre baby weight and what does it represent? I speak to sooo many mothers that are aiming for this number. Aiming to be back at a weight they were when they were a completely different person with a completely different life and a completely different body.

It’s almost like comparing yourself to someone else, which is pretty crazy right! (But we do that too.)

So here is my take…I got caught in the trap of needing to be this weight because that’s what I was before I had S. I need to jump this high, run this far, do this many reps bla bla bla.

I saw all these people bouncing back because let’s face it, the people that don’t bounce back aren’t normally posting before and after photos. For a moment I questioned myself, I saw the nine months in, nine months out photos and thought that’s where I should be. I saw the 1 year post baby photos and I got a bit down on myself.

Comparison really is the theif of joy and in saying that, why are we comparing ourselves with who we use to be and how we use to look.

I’m not saying it’s not achievable to get back to your pre baby weight but I can guarantee you that your body will look and feel different, it may take longer to get there and it may take a bit more work to maintain.

Instead of focusing on that number, what if we focused on our health and how we are feeling mentally, emotionally and physically. Health is holistic and when we focus on the numbers and physical performance without taking everything into consideration we can get caught up in a negative mental and emotional cycle.

The best way to track your health is to give up the comparison of what you use to be and tune into your body, set some clear goals most definitely and celebrate every little win!

You are the person you are now not the person you use to be, your body has transformed and so has your life. So be kind to yourself and focus on your energy and your overall health, not that silly number that you give so much power to!
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Gratitude

GRATITUDE ✨


It is said that in a moment of gratitude it is physically impossible to feel anxious at the same time.
The gratitude a mother feels for their child is the kind that can bring tears (happy tears, tears of omg is this even real, how did I get so lucky?) it’s the epitome of gratitude.
As you rattle off the things you are grateful for, sometimes even habitually and maybe even a bit complacent, just remember that If you can connect to anywhere near that feeling of gratefulness then you have a powerful tool to use in your everyday life.
Going through the motions without connection strips this tool of its power.
So today as you list the things you are grateful for, feel them down to your core 💗

 

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